If a friend, family member, or someone else you care for has a mental illness, you may at times feel hopeless and helpless.

Remember: mental illnesses are common and treatable. With a good understanding and a well-informed, caring and supportive approach, you can play an important part in that person’s recovery.

By working alongside the person who is ill and their doctor, you can help speed up recovery, prevent relationship and family breakdown, and avoid other potentially negative consequences of the illness, such as unemployment, alcohol abuse, financial difficulties or even suicide.

Identifying the signs and symptoms of mental illness in a friend or a loved one can be very difficult. There are many different types of conditions, and spotting the symptoms isn't easy, especially if someone has been feeling the same way for a long time. Here are some common signs and symptoms that people with mental illness may experience:

• They may be experiencing mood changes that are abnormal for them, such as having extended feelings of unhappiness, anger, worry, guilt, anxiousness, restlessness, and agitation.
• They may be thinking things such as ‘life isn’t worth living’, ‘nothing ever goes right’, ‘something bad is going to happen’, ‘I’m useless’. They might find it hard to concentrate or make decisions.
• They have behavioural changes such as avoiding people, crying a lot, changes in their eating, changes in their sleep pattern, being forgetful or confused frequently, recklessness, hurting themselves, or misusing alcohol or drugs.
• They may be experiencing physical symptoms such as aches and pains in their body, fatigue and lack of energy, weight changes, dizziness, rapid heartbeat and breathing or stomach problems.

Different people are likely to be affected in different ways and have more problems with certain symptoms. If you notice some of these signs in a friend or family member, you should try to talk to them about it and listen to how they are feeling.

It can be difficult to start a conversation about mental health, especially when it is someone close to you. It’s okay to feel nervous about approaching the conversation but try to remind yourself why you are doing it and that you want to help them.

Remember that listening is the most important thing you can do to help! Most people aren't asking for advice when they are asking for help, sometimes they just need someone to talk to free from judgement. 

Here are some ways that you can try to start a conversation with someone about mental health:

• ‘’How are you? Tell me honestly.’’
• ‘’If you ever want to talk about anything, I’m here.’’
• “I have been feeling concerned about you lately.”
• “Recently, I have noticed some differences in you and wondered how you are doing.”
• “That sounds really hard, when did you begin feeling like this?”
• “Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?”
• “How can I best support you right now/today?”
• “I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Have you thought about getting help?”
• “You are not alone. I am here for you.”

People can feel vulnerable when talking about their mental health, so keep these phrases in mind to reassure them:

• Telling them that you see their struggle can be an important help. People can be afraid to let others know they are not coping, but being able to connect with others can be a relief.
• They are not alone. Even if they think that no one can understand exactly how they feel, they do not have to deal with things alone.
• It’s important to remind them that mental illnesses are treatable and that it is not their fault. 

With a good understanding and a well-informed, caring and supportive approach, you can play an important part in helping them with their mental health.

At AWARE NI, we believe that talking to others who know how you feel is an important step in your journey to recovery.

We have a network of support groups that are run by our trained volunteers. Support groups welcome people with low mood, depression, anxiety and bipolar - as well as carers for people with the illness. The aim of the groups is to bring together people who are suffering and invite them to share their experiences and discuss coping mechanisms.

Other Support Services

We offer a support mail service for people that have any questions about depression or perhaps would like more information about the illness.

Please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or click here for more information on these services.

We have a Support Call service available to access information and support. Please call 028 9035 7820 or 028 7126 0602 during the operating hours of 9am - 5pm Monday to Thursday, and 9am - 2pm on Fridays.